Tuesday, February 24, 2015

"It is your life, It is your legacy.. Make it Large" I write in my HuffingtonPost India blog

Death may be the great leveller. But so are the 3Ms - marriage, motherhood and medical ailments. They compel you to think, touch something deep within, bring up questions, provide answers and burst your bubbles. And in that one moment, you ponder and wonder about life and legacy. For a vast majority of us, these moments centre on the birth of children or grandchildren, our kids touching specific milestones (say turn 18, getting married, etc), the loss of our parents, spouse or loved ones. For some of us, it may be our age (say 40, 50 or 60), or retirement from active work.

No matter what the trigger is, at some point in life most of us tend to think about the answer to the question, "What is my personal legacy?" Usually, the first response tends to be around financial assets. After all, money does make the world go round. But, many times I wonder, are we all not endowed with several other assets in life? Assets that we want to hand down to future generations. Ever thought about what can be an integral part of your legacy? Here are my views.

1) Knowledge
2) Wisdom of Life
3) Good Habits
4) Self-taught skills
5) Personal Creations
6) Ideas
7) Children
8) Personal Wealth
9) Social Media Legacy

Full reading at Huffington Post India blog

Tuesday, February 17, 2015

The age and stage

The age and the stage matter
Make all the difference

The age and the stage
Will determine what you can do
Will impact what you should do
Will influence what you eventually do

The age and the stage affect
your thoughts
your emotions
your priorities
your choices
your context
your circusmstance
your confidence
your strengths
your weaknesses
your smiles
your tears
your finances
your health
your energy
your creativity
your value
your dreams

So when age is on your side
And the stage is set for you to play your part
Just Do it!

You may never get them both again!

Saturday, February 14, 2015

Self-Love is the best love | Ways to love yourself this Valentine's Day

"The moment you have in your heart this extraordinary thing called love and feel the depth, the delight, the ecstasy of it; you will discover that for you the world is transformed." BY Jiddu Krishnamurti

So it is February. The month of love as Valentine's Day is round the corner. And as I observe the many hues of love in the air, I wonder what does the 4 letter word "love" really mean?
Is there a universal definition of love?
Does love mean the same thing to you and me?


As I look at my own life, and observe the lives of people around me here's the thing about love that I discovered | There is no universal definition of love -- Love means different things to different people. Even for a single individual, the definition of love changes as one evolves in the journey of life; and the emotions, expressions, intensity and manifestations vary based on the relationships and phase of life you are in. However, what is universal is that Love has always been a very powerful, positive and transformational human emotion.

While Valentine's day is about celebrating 'love', I think one of the best tributes to 'love' is to love yourself unconditionally. So in this post, I'm sharing a few ways you can love yourself.

Smile and Laugh
"Smile, it's free therapy." BY Douglas Horton
Smile a lot, laugh a little or may be a lot today. It goes a long way in keeping your mind healthy, balanced in perspective and in better control of life. The simplest way is to do things which trigger your smiles - like reading jokes, watching a fun movie / cartoon, re-living the good happy moments of the past. Whatever it is, find a reason to smile / laugh - it can be a wonderful way to love yourself

Exercise | Get the body moving and heart racing
"True enjoyment comes from activity of the mind and exercise of the body; the two are ever united." BY Wilhelm von Humboldt
A good work-out makes you feel active, energetic, happy and upbeat, in addition to ensuring your overall physical health and well-being. According to this article from Harvard Health, in addition to the physical benefits "exercise changes the brain in ways that protect memory and thinking skills."

Indulge | in the culinary delights and exotics
"Your diet is a bank account. Good food choices are good investments." BY Bethenny Frankel
There is something about good food which teases and pleases you in more than one way. A nice hearty meal which includes one / more of your favorite dishes is a good way to love yourself. For many, good food is about indulgence (high fat and high sugar content) - Such food can be divine. And it is OK to indulge once in a way

Dress Up | Look your best
"I think clothing is transformative. When you put something really beautiful on, you feel something. In so many ways, we're always playing a form of dress-up - it's just a grown-up, much chicer version of it. It's nice to be able to be whoever you want to be." BY Jason Wu
Looking good makes you feel positive and confident, changes the way you think and also changes the way others perceive you. Of course, it can also get one / many compliments come your way, and who doesn't like that?

Spend time with people you love
"Spend time with those you love. One of these days you will say either, 'I wish I had' or 'I'm glad I did'". BY Zig Ziglar
It could in the real world or virtual world, but just spend time with people you love. It will make you happy and joyful, and hopefully them too.

Do one thing you really love today
"Everyone has been made for some particular work, and the desire for that work has been put in every heart." BY Rumi
Small, Big, Fun, Adventurous, Routine, Boring. If you enjoy doing it, do it today. It can be reading, music, dance, just giving a piece of your mind to someone, laughing with your kids, writing - Do one thing you really love today

Shopping / Retail Therapy
"Whoever said money can't buy happiness simply didn't know where to go shopping." BY Bo Derek
There is some unexplainable joy and happiness in shopping for yourself - Whatever you buy (clothes, footwear, perfumes, accessories, books, gadgets, cars, paintings, sculpture, art), and where ever you buy (online / offline): The head and heart usually feel a lot lighters when the purse strings are loose.

Make a financial investment in your name
"Generally speaking, investing in yourself is the best thing you can do" BY Warren Buffet
Securing your financial future is a wonderful gift to yourself, and what better way than with a worthwhile financial instrument. Find a way to make your money work for you.

Practice the 'silent hour' today
"Silence is a source of great strength" BY Lao Tzu
1 hour of silence in a day is a wonderful way to love yourself. Shut off the news, views, Google, phone, Facebook, Twitter, TV, worries - and just be silent. Feel free to think and feel what you want, but don't say anything. Try it. Definitely worth it!

Do a random good deed today
"The nicest feeling in the world is to do a good deed anonymously-and have somebody find out." BY Oscar Wilde
Doing a random good deed for a known or unknown face in the real or virtual world is a fantastic act. If you are wondering how, a few suggestions - Donate blood, Sponsor a meal for someone who can't afford it, sponsor education for someone who can't afford it, help someone on social media (answer a question, share a resource, write for a cause). Your good deed will make a difference to someone, and that is a wonderful way to give back for all the wonderful things you have in life

Love yourself first and everything else falls into line. You really have to love yourself to get anything done in this world. BY Lucille Ball

You've got to love yourself first. You've got to be okay on your own before you can be okay with somebody else. BY Jennifer Lopez

As I sign off, here's wishing you a very Happy Valentine's Day. Love Yourself on this special Day.

Leave a comment to let me know how you plan to love yourself this Valentine's day

Tuesday, February 10, 2015

A round-up of the best posts I've written on LOVE

So it is that time of the year.. When love is in the air.. Yes! Valentine's day is round the corner,,

And I thought for a change, I should probably write about all the "love" posts that I have written

So here's a quick round-up..


Quotes on Love that I Love

Sibling Love - A pleasure and a treasure

Oh Maternal Love - Where art Thou?

What it means to be a mother?

My Mother.... My Lifeline

A Love Hate Story

21 reasons why I love blogging

5 Most Important L's in life

Love Thyself? Learn Something New

Questions to ask and answer for yourself - if you love yourself

Share and spread some love...
And yes! Happy Valentines Day to you and your loved ones..

Thursday, February 5, 2015

Star Moment | My 1st Newspaper Interview and a Dream Come True


The print newspaper and me go a long way spanning many many many decades. We’ve always had an interesting relationship.
Sometimes, I consider it my best friend and read it fully.
Many times, I consider it to be an acquaintance and steal a glance (to see if there is anything interesting  in the images)
Sometimes, I ignore it.
And many times, I look at a picture / read an article and dream “I wish it was me“.

I’m excited and happy to share that my dream came true :) My “Star Moment” and my 1st newspaper interview is below on Deccan Chronicles (Bangaluru Edition)


How it came to be?
It was a pleasant surprise when I received a message a few weeks ago from the Features Editor of Deccan Chronicles that they wanted to feature me in their paper as they regularly feature 'inspirational women / women entrepreneurs'. I really wasn't sure "What I had done to feature here?". Out of curiosity, I responded saying that I'm open to discuss. What followed next was a couple of connects, interactions and conversations. And I was interviewed for a couple of questions. Again, honestly - I really wasn't sure what I was getting into. I thought it was for a small feature that they'll publish. But, I was in for a very pleasant surprise when I saw a full length photo of me.
"Wow! That is a dream come true", and surely my "Star Moment". And yes, I will save the paper as something I'll show my grandchildren some day :). Special thanks to Nuvena Rajendran for making this happen.It is indeed wonderful to be acknowledged and appreciated for your efforts.

And since I was interviewed on a lot more than what they newspapers printed, I'm sharing some of my other responses here on the blog.

For full reading, click here