Tuesday, November 24, 2015

The 3 P's which can really make a DIFFERENCE in LIFE

What are the 3P’s which can truly make a DIFFERENCE in life?

P1: Purpose
The greatest use of life is to spend it for something that will outlast it.” BY William James

There's a PURPOSE why we all are born. The sooner we become aware of it, accept it and act in accordance with this Purpose, the more wonderful life is.

The purpose can be really anything - To write, create music / art / employment / business / technology / books / solutions / something else, help others, bring joy in the lives of others, travel, study, discover, run, swim, dance, sing, nurture, set or beat records, inspire, lead, influence. Whatever it is, one thing is certain. You are here for a PURPOSE!

So take the time to discover the PURPOSE of your life. Even a few minutes a day spent in reflection, introspection and listening to the voice within goes a long way in making a TRANSFORMATIONAL DIFFERENCE in your LIFE

P2: Positivity
"The positive thinker sees the invisible, feels the intangible, and achieves the impossible.” BY Winston Churchill

No matter what life throws at you, if you can find a way to stay POSITIVE - Chances are things will eventually work out just fine.

From what I've seen in people and the world around me, no one has ever gone through life without the lows, failures, sad moments, loss, cries, disappointments, rough times and storms - And yet! There are some who manage to smile through it all, and radiate that “lovely positivity”.
Someone wise once told me "If you can't genuinely be positive all the time, fake it! Over a period of time, it will become your second nature" - Easier said than done, but nonetheless worth trying!

So try to find a way to stay positive - No matter what!

P3: Passion
Passion is energy. Feel the power that comes from focusing on what excites you.” BY Oprah Winfrey

The one thing that can truly make a difference in how you live each day and how life responds to you is your PASSION. No matter what, the passionate individuals always stand out. You can sense, see and feel their passion in their eyes, in their words, in their actions, in their conduct, in their personality. There's that 'something extra' which they say or do which stands out.

And again, it is not possible for every one of us to be passionate about every single thing we do, but if we can find that one thing which we are truly passionate about, and do it every single day - It will make an ocean of difference in how your life turns out!

So ask yourself - What are you really passionate about? And devote some time every day towards this. It will make an OCEAN of Difference in your life

So, what P's make a difference in your life? Leave a comment to let me know

Wednesday, November 18, 2015

Join in for a live tweetchat with me today - 18 Nov2015, 12 PM IST

Happy and excited to share that I am an invited guest by SheThePeople.TV for a live tweetchat at 12 PM IST today (18 Nov 2015). If you've ever had any questions for me on #MyDigitalStory - tune in and tweet on...

If you are wondering why you should join a tweetchat, I'd say top reasons are - learning, networking and fun! Not convinced still? Hop over to my post on Top reasons why you should participate in tweetchats

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For those who don't know 
* SheThePeople.TV is SheThePeople is a video story telling space that inspires women, strengthens their efforts, exchanges leadership ideas, fosters networking and reinforces their ability to contribute to growth.

* Shaili Chopra is the founder of SheThePeople.TV - As one of India’s top television editor-presenters, she has been at the forefront of achievers in journalism. In her earlier avatar, Shaili was earlier the Senior Editor and Lead Anchor at ET NOW, the Economic Times Business News Channel and earlier before that with NDTV.

Tuesday, November 17, 2015

How to live and die? Any thoughts?

So we are already in November 2015. 10 months have zoomed by in this year. With the onset of winters, these months mark a change in weather and lifestyle . Things around you become slower, it is holiday / festive season in the air. This time of the year is ideal for introspection.

And so I found it timely when I received the below forward on WhatsApp. I really felt it was timely, so sharing on my blog.

How to live and die? BY Khushwant Singh
I’ve often thought about what it is that makes people happy—what one has to do in order to achieve happiness.

First and foremost is good health. If you do not enjoy good health, you can never be happy. Any ailment, however trivial, will deduct something from your happiness.

Second, a healthy bank balance. It need not run into crores, but it should be enough to provide for comforts, and there should be something to spare for recreation—eating out, going to the movies, travel and holidays in the hills or by the sea. Shortage of money can be demoralising. Living on credit or borrowing is demeaning and lowers one in one’s own eyes.

Third, your own home. Rented places can never give you the comfort or security of a home that is yours for keeps. If it has garden space, all the better. Plant your own trees and flowers, see them grow and blossom, and cultivate a sense of kinship with them.

Fourth, an understanding companion, be it your spouse or a friend. If you have too many misunderstandings, it robs you of your peace of mind. It is better to be divorced than to be quarrelling all the time.

Fifth, stop envying those who have done better than you in life—risen higher, made more money, or earned more fame. Envy can be corroding; avoid comparing yourself with others.

Sixth, do not allow people to descend on you for gup-shup. By the time you get rid of them, you will feel exhausted and poisoned by their gossip-mongering.

Seventh, cultivate a hobby or two that will fulfil you—gardening, reading, writing, painting, playing or listening to music. Going to clubs or parties to get free drinks, or to meet celebrities, is a criminal waste of time. It’s important to concentrate on something that keeps you occupied meaningfully. I have family members and friends who spend their entire day caring for stray dogs, giving them food and medicines. There are others who run mobile clinics, treating sick people and animals free of charge.

Eighth, every morning and evening devote 15 minutes to introspection. In the mornings, 10 minutes should be spent in keeping the mind absolutely still, and five listing the things you have to do that day. In the evenings, five minutes should be set aside to keep the mind still and 10 to go over the tasks you had intended to do.

Ninth, don’t lose your temper. Try not to be short-tempered, or vengeful. Even when a friend has been rude, just move on.

Above all, when the time comes to go, one should go like a man without any regret or grievance against anyone.  Iqbal said it beautifully in a couplet in Persian: “You ask me about the signs of a man of faith? When death comes to him, he has a smile on his lips.”

Have any views on How to live and die? Leave a comment to let me know..

Tuesday, November 10, 2015

Weight Loss on your mind? Here Are 9 Things You Should Understand Before You Start..

Over the past several years, I have attempted to follow more than 10 types of diets. Some worked. Many did not. After doing all these diets, am I at an ideal weight? No! So what did I understand about myself, my body and how weight loss works from personal experiences?

Here are 9 things you should be clear about before setting out on your quest to achieve your weight loss goals.

Why do you want to lose weight?
The big WHY of weight loss makes all the difference in anyone’s attempt to loose weight. Be clear on why you are doing it and what is the priority of the weight loss program in your life. What are you willing to let go to invest in your health? TV time, Facebook time? Twitter time, more?

Have a very specific weight loss target
I have found that I have lost weight every time I know what I am working towards. Weight is a mind game and more specifically a number game. So it can be lose 1 kg in 1 week, or 60 kgs by Dec end. Whatever it is – you should have a time duration and clarity of what you need to achieve.

Everyone’s body is unique
Every body is created in a unique manner. So also your body will respond differently to a specific diet / exercise plan as compared to others. Listen and respect your body.

Understand your metabolism
Body metabolism slows down (significantly) after an age in life and time of the day. So either you are born lucky with a great metabolism or respect that reality and find ways to keep your metabolism high no matter what

There are no short cuts
In general, weight gain is easier than weight loss, especially if you are a working mother. There are many ways to lose weight but there is no short cut to weight loss. Factors like your diet, your exercise regime, your current medical condition and your genetics make all the difference. There are, of course, many short cuts to weight gain!

Not all calories are created equal
In general, many of us are guilty of consuming more (unhealthy) calories than we actually need on a daily basis. The only way to change the way you life is to track where you are making mistakes. Use apps or tools to help with tracking.

Find a way to motivate yourself
Self-talk and motivation are essential to keep going on a daily basis. There will be good days and bad days. They key is to keep going, no matter what.

Healthy weight loss takes time
Healthy weight loss takes time. So be patient. Be focused. And most importantly, track your progress religiously. A trick is to use the same weighing machine, and weight yourself at the same time of the day and with the same kind of attire (be it with a trouser or a frock)

It’s okay to go off-track
If and when you have  strong urge to deviate or if you do deviate, let it pass. Just come back to complete what you originally set out to do. After all, the key is to lose weight and invest in your health – and till that happens, just do it!

What have you understood about weight loss from your personal experiences? Leave a comment!

First published on WomensWeb

Tuesday, November 3, 2015

Why November is a great time to start a new weight loss program?

At the start of 2015, I made a personal resolution to loose weight for two major reasons. One, I had gained weight over the course of previous year. Two, I felt that the excess weight was affecting my daily life and work – in terms of energy levels, productivity, creativity, concentration and effectiveness. Both bothered me, so I resolved to do something. After a lot of online research and talking to people in my network for suggestions, I zeroed in on the Paleo diet. Let me confess that the diet program was very intense and I managed to lose 4 kgs in 21 days. After that I found it impossible to sustain as a working mom. So I decided to take it slow and just eat sensibly for a few days. Then came a business travel so the routine got upset. Next came festivals (no dearth of them in India) – and festival time is usually filled with celebrations around food. That was followed by work pressures. Then kids falling sick. Then some personal commitments. Then some more travel. Then more work stress. Long story short, before I realized, it was October and my weight was almost the same as what I had been during the start of 2015!
Again that bothered me. So I decided to do something about it and started a self-designed weight loss program around 2 weeks back. All it involved was:
  1. Drink water in abundance – especially after you wake up and before going to bed
  2. Have an early dinner; no solid food after 7:30 PM
  3. No carbohydrates for dinner
  4. Increase intake of fruits (dry fruits) and salads or vegetables
  5. No matter what, squeeze in 20 mins daily for exercise – in any form. Walking, running, taking the stairs, Yoga.

I must confess that it was hard to start but I can already feel the difference. I feel more fresh, active and energetic when I wake up. Clothes fit me better.
But I have a lot way to go.
So I was wondering that may be the month of November is a great time to start a new weight loss program. Here’s why!
  1. You have only 2 months of the year left to follow it – and 2 months sounds more doable that 12 months of a year when you start in January
  2. You can motivate yourself with some self-love and pampering for new year -a new dress, a new look, a gift for yourself or something you really want. And personally I find that the motivation makes all the difference in how long you continue to follow a specific diet programs
  3. It is the onset of winter – So there are lots of fresh fruits and vegetables which are perfect for salads and nibbling
  4. The day is shorter – So you can easily go to bed sooner and get all the rest you need, even if you eat less / early

“The woods are lovely dark and deep
But I have promises to keep
And miles to go before I sleep
And miles to go before I sleep”
– Robert Frost, Stopping By Woods On A Snowy Evening

First published on WomensWeb