Tuesday, January 27, 2015

To See or not to See

To See or Not to See
Is sometimes life's big dilemma

Sometimes you see because you have the eyes
Sometimes you see because you want to see
Sometimes you see because you can't miss it
Sometimes you see because they want you to see
Sometimes you see because you have no choice

Sometimes you don't see because you are pre-occupied
Sometimes you don't see because you don't want to see it

Sometimes you don't see because they don't want you to see
Sometimes you don't see because you have a choice

And sometimes you see because you are meant to see
And sometimes you don't see because you are not meant to see

To See or Not to See
Is sometimes life's big dilemma

Tuesday, January 20, 2015

"From a daughter to a working mother" | I write in my 1st Huffington blog post

"What do you want to be when you grow up?" was one of the questions I was asked very many times during my childhood. I loved answering the question for one reason. As a growing child, I could change the answer at whim, and it would still be correct! So, my responses took me from being a doctor, to a genetics engineer, to an entrepreneur, to a lawyer, to a sportsperson, to a police officer, to an artist, to a designer, to a cartoonist, to a global best-selling author, to a private detective, to the show business, to a motivational speaker, to the creator of the first human robot for personal/home use, to an alchemist in the quest to find the elixir for all problems of the world.

Today as an adult, I still love this question. Not to answer myself, but to hear answers from children. Any kid I spend time with, I almost always ask him/her "What do you want to be when you grow up?" Irrespective of their age, the question makes a child think, time-travel to the future and then articulate the response. Their answers never cease to amaze me. Children of today are aware of their interests, self-confident and articulate in their communication, and knowledgeable about numerous career options, possibilities and opportunities.
No prizes for guessing that after I became a mother and my baby started talking, I've asked this question a zillion times. For several months, the response I received was "I want to be like you!" That answer always made me swell with maternal pride, and a sense of responsibility. It made me cognisant of the fact that I need to be a live example of what I want her to emulate from me, and that inspires me to try to be better today than I was yesterday!

However, for the past several months her response has been different. "I want to go to office and I want to be a mummy" she says. The first time I heard it, I was pleasantly surprised. In hindsight, both the answers are similar. Just that "being like me" now equates to "being a working mother" in her mind, and rightly so, as that is what I am today.
On one hand, I am happy to hear this. After all, like most mothers--I do want my children to be healthy, happy, well-educated, balanced, independent, financially stable and blossom in life to achieve their full potential.

But on the other hand,.... For Full reading, click-over to Huffingtonpost India

Tuesday, January 13, 2015

Indian Women At Work Survey Results are out!

The Women at work survey results are out. Refer below to the key insights and findings.
But first, Why I did this survey?
All regular readers of my writings know that the topic of Indian women at work is close to my heart.
One, I am a working woman in India, and have been so for more than a decade now.
Two, I see young women around me at various stages and phases of their career journey. While I see passion, hope and commitment in their eyes and dreams in their heart, I also hear so many questions on the How? When? Where? Questions which plagued me in the past, are knocking their door-step today. And there are very limited resources to answer and help them navigate their career trajectories.
Three, I really believe that the time is right to bring to the fore-front conversations around women at the workplace. "If not now, then when?" I wonder.

As I look back to connect the dots of my career and life, I realize and recognize that being a working woman / mother in India is not (always) easy, and comes with its share of great, good, bad and ugly. The fact is there are multidimensional issues which are 'real and complex'. I also understand that no two women have the same context and circumstance, and so their choices and career trajectories are different. There is surely "no one size that fits all", so what is good for me may simply be irrelevant for you.

But there must be a common view-point. Something which summarizes the general trends. And so the survey. I wanted to get the views and perspectives from people on the topic of "Indian women at work". So the survey was a pulse-check of the situation at the ground , and a peak into what the real issues are, and what can possibly make a difference for the case and cause of Indian women at work.
Thanks to all those who filled the survey. I truly appreciate the 3 minutes you gave for filling this.
And yes! The BIG ANNOUNCEMENT : A lot of my writings for 2015 around "Indian Women At Work" will be based on the insights of this survey. So hope you enjoy reading me

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Wednesday, January 7, 2015

If He’s Not Well, She’s There. If She’s Not Well, Who’s There?

Think about the time when your grandfather/father(-in-law)/husband/son(-in-law) was sick/unwell/indisposed.

It could be something major, like an operation, or something minor, like a fever. Can you recall who was there with him? Who nursed him back to health? Who fussed over him? Who ensured he had healthy food? Who gave him timely medicine? Who bore his mood-swings and tantrums? Who stuck through the bad and the ugly along with him?

I can’t say for sure what your answer is. But I can guess with a great degree of confidence that it was a woman in his life. It could be the grandmother/mother(-in-law)/wife/daughter(-in-law).

Now think about the time when your grandmother/mother(-in-law)/wife/daughter(-in-law) was sick /unwell/ indisposed. It could be something major, like an operation, or something minor, like a fever.
Can you recall who was there with her? Who nursed her back to health? Who fussed on her? Who ensured she had healthy food? Who gave her timely medicine? Who bore her mood-swings and tantrums? Who stuck through the bad and the ugly along with her?

I can’t say for sure what your answer is. But I can guess with a great degree of confidence that it was a woman in her life. And more often than not that woman is herself.

For the past several years, personal circumstances have put me in the middle of many such situations. I’ve seen this as a recurring pattern in a vast majority of the cases (Note: I don’t mean to generalize here, and agree that there could be several exceptions).

I brought this up with many friends in my personal network and there is general consensus. I followed this with a discussion with a very close doctor friend, and she confirmed this from her medical experiences too. She said that many times, even when women are in the hospital for any kind of medical treatment, they are usually on their own – to take care, recover, rest, recuperate, and get to their feet. Of course, the medical staff / help does their bit, but the onus of “fuss-free” recovery is on the woman.

In many cases, she said that if a man is the patient, some woman will accompany him – even for a consultation. But if the woman is the patient, many times she comes alone or with some other woman. One instance that she narrated to me was of an aunty admitted in the hospital. Her husband refused to visit her because he was ‘emotionally unable to see his wife in distress’. The aunty was mostly alone through her surgery and recovery. A few years later, her husband underwent a surgery in the same hospital. She did not leave his bed-side even for a minute and nursed him back to his feet in record time.

Something does not add up, right?

 For full reading, click over the the article on WomensWeb

Friday, January 2, 2015

Happy New Year 2015

Wishing you and your family a very HAPPY NEW YEAR 2015!
Hope this year is filled with
New dreams
New goals
New learnings
New thoughts
New perspectives
New lessons
New successes
New joys
New highs
New experiences

Best wishes as you enter into the New Year!
Keep Smiling, and make it count!

And as you step into the new year, answer for yourself some questions.. Powerful, Thought Provoking and sure to burst a few bubbles... 
1) Am I doing things that I love?
2) Am I learning enough?
3) Am I content with the current state of my overall health?
4) Am I really happy with myself?
5) Am I spending time with those who matter to me?
6) Am I happy with the current state of my immediate living environment?
7) Have I made peace with my past?
8)  Am I really experiencing life?

Full reading here

Yes, Thank You for reading me :)