Thursday, October 31, 2013

My Secret Wishlist for my Girls

As a woman / mother, I have strong “maternal emotions” for some of the girls in my family / personal network. The young beautiful girl who is the future of tomorrow, the girl with a twinkle in her eyes, the girl with a spring in their step, the girl with hopes  and rainbows for a lovely tomorrow, the girl with dreams, the girl with ambitions, the girls with love and laughs, the girl with a golden heart..

BUT… the BIG BUT always makes its presence felt. The “real world” of today is NOT SO NICE with every little girl! There are so many things to watch out for, so many things to take care of, so many things to do, so many things not to do, so many things to say, so many things not to say – The very thought of how the world will be several years from now can be frighteningly unpredictable, scary and not so good!

As I mull over what I’d really want for my girls 20 / 30 / 40 years from now, I can’t help but inscribe my Secret Wish List for my Girls (NO! This is not a Mother India wish list). This is just a heart-felt list of things I wish are better for the girls of the next generation – So that they can live - truly live, experience life, make choices, dream and live their dreams!

So without any further ado, sharing my secret wish list for my girls:

So without any further ado, sharing my secret wish list for my girls:
1. That she is not “discriminated” against in any way in any phase of life (especially for their gender, complexion, ethnicity, physical appearance, social standing, or choices of life)

2. That she never experiences abuse of any kind – physical abuse, emotional abuse, mental abuse, financial abuse or social abuse

3. That she is physically strong; and can protect/defend herself – should the situation demand it

4. That she is endowed with good health and physical agility; and no major illnesses befall her

5. That she has a radiant smile, and doesn’t need to ever use lipstick/cosmetics as her smile is enough to take your breath away

6. That she has a natural glow on her skin; and she never really needs to use skin creams/cosmetics just look good. Her natural beauty should shine through

7.  That she is always healthy and within the recommended weight range; and never ever has to deal with the weight issues (obesity, undernourishment, etc) ; Weight issues can typically change the quality and quantity of their life and life experiences

8. That she can “TRULY” exercise her choices – w.r.t education, occupation, choice of her life partner and the decision to be a mother

9.  That she is knowledgeable and wise in the “basics and fundamentals” of the following – Personal Finance, Self, Human emotions, Human relationships, The human anatomy, Communication and Technology

10. That she does not face the “glass ceiling” (which exists even today for women) as a part of their professional careers

11. That she has “true” freedom and control over her personal finances

12. That she can truly decide if, when and how she wants to be a mother; and that the child-birth experience is as pain-free as can medically be feasible

13. That she grows into a society where “The mind is without fear, and the head is held high

14. That she is truly respected for what she is – by the men and women in her life

15. That by the time she grows up – Home Maintenance and other mundane domestic activities are completely automated / done by technology (For e.g.: Robots) – So “home maintenance” does not exclusively fall under the purview of things she should do

16. That she has access to safe and secure public transport (public / private) – at any time of the day or night; so that she can travel alone – for her personal/professional interests

17. That the workforce includes 50% women; and homes are run by 50% men

18. That she has at least 3 awesome friends – friends who will be willing to sign her a blank cheque (no questions asked), who will pick up her calls any time of day/night, and who stand by her during the darkest nights of her life

19. That she has enough wisdom to know when to speak and when to keep her mouth shut

20. That if required she can turn to the right individuals / organizations for help and support; and she will be heard and that she will get the required help

21. That the law of the land will protect her for her rights and interests

22. That worry does not rule her mind and life

23. That she grows to be an emotionally balanced individual

24. That she has access to the opportunities that she truly desires ; and has the potential to make a difference in the world / in the lives of those around her

25. That she is able to appreciate, understand and use technology to make her life simpler, easier and more efficient

26. That she is part of an environment that enables her to capitalize and build on her strengths; and improve on her weaknesses

27. That she has the strength and courage to take responsibility for her decisions and choices

28. That at work, she is compensated and progressed for her knowledge, skills, competence, performance and results

29. That she is aware of the multiple dimensions of power; and the explicit / implicit power that she wields

30. That she is connected with her femininity

31. That she truly understands the many hues of independence, dependence and inter-dependence

32. That she is valued as much for her brains, as her brawn and beauty

33. That for the rest of her life, she can sleep peacefully – almost everyday

34. That she is happy – at least for the most part of life

35. That she believes that she can aim for the stars, and reach the sky – if she sets her mind on it

36. That she is able to experience worldly imperfections, perfectly

37. That she leaves a personal legacy ; which will be valued and treasured for generations to come



This post is dedicated to the four special girls in my life – Baby N, Baby T, Drithi and Srishti. Hope the world is a better place for YOU!

That concludes my secret wishlist. Would love to hear your Wishlist for the girls in your life? Leave a comment to let me know…

Originally published on WomensWeb


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Wednesday, October 30, 2013

A Blog is really like a Movie...

"What is a blog really like?" was the question asked.
And the answer which satisfied the audience was "A blog is really like a Movie..."

I was addressing a group of non-bloggers and I found it hard to explain what blogging really is. Suprisingly, the answer which satisfied them was one in which I explained how a blog is really like a movie... The reality is that there are several people in the world who don't know what a blog is and why anyone in the world would spend their time and money in blogging :)

And to such an audience, the most effective and satisfactory response was this "Every blog that you publish is really like a Movie..."..
..And in this blog post, I've tried to make my point on the co-relation between the Movie World and the Blogging World....
I am neither a Movie buff nor do I understand the nitty gritties of movie-making.. But I do have a high level understanding of movie making and of course, an in-depth understanding of creating a successful blog...

There are really 3 broad phases in making a movie / blog
Phase 1 - The Ideation Phase : In which you have an idea for your movie / blog
Phase 2 - The Creation Phase : In which you give form to your idea to create the end product (movie / blog)
Phase 3 - The Promotion Phase : In which you market your creation (movie / blog) to an audience
And then of course, is the Feedback phase in which the audience verdict is OUT - Good, Bad or Ugly!

Phase 1 - The Ideation Phase
This is probably the most critical phase in the journey of making a movie or a blog. Simply because you need to have an idea for your blog - In terms of the topics of focus for your blog and specifically in terms of the topic for every single blog post of yours! And if you get this RIGHT, your chances of success increase manifold!

Phase 2 - The Creation Phase
For easy of communication and comprehension, refer the comparison below:
In the Movie WorldIn the Blogging World
DirectorBlogger – In terms of making the idea come to life and ensuring that everything needed from the creative or technical side is taken care of
ProducerBlogger – In terms of the investments he / she does to create and maintain the blog (both the design elements and the content)
StoryThis really translates to how the blogger is able to articulate his / her idea into words and the power of the message in the blog!
Actors (Hero / Heroine)The words. Yes! The words you write on your blog are your final actors. You can make them perform the way you want based on your choice of words, your literary elegance and your presentation style
EditorAgain, the blogger itself if he /she does the editorial work or someone else you hire for your editorial efforts
Special EffectsThis can be through pictures, music, podcasts, video blogs, infographics, etc. – You can choose your special effects based on your individual creativity, preference and context.The point to note is that there are several options available and you can decide based on the kind of investments you are willing to make (time and money), your target audience, your objective for the blog and the impact you want to create!
Guest PerformancesDon’t we all like the appearance of a guest actor / star in a movie? Be it for a special song or just to make a point! Sure we do because it’s just so refreshing. So it is with guest blogs.As a blogger, you allow other guest bloggers to write for your blog to bring in diverse points-of-view to your audience. Also, not to mention the actual effort of creating the content (which becomes a challenge after a while) is the responsibility of the guest bloggerAlso, as a blogger you probably also write guest posts for other blogs because your able to enhance your brand and reach a wider audience with minimum time and efforts (as someone else is finally responsible and accountable) for the end product

Phase 3 - The Promotion Phase
This is probably the most important phase as it determines the results that your efforts yield. Firstly, you need to be clear about who your target audience is. And then you need to define and execute a well-integrated marketing plan to promote your blogs. So for e.g: You need to send an e-mail about your blog or share it on FaceBook or ask some celebrity (online / offline) to share your blogs on Twitter, etc etc. While there are many channels, what's impoartant is to decide on the key (say 3) channels you will leverage for your promotional activities...
And once you're blog is released, all you can do is to hope that your readers will enjoy your blog.. you work of art.. or your BLOG-ART!

What do you think? Is there a similarity between the blogging and movie world? Leave a comment to let me know


Originally published here
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Tuesday, October 29, 2013

Sibling Love | A Pleasure and Treasure

Siblings are the people we practice on, the people who teach us about fairness and cooperation and kindness and caring, quite often the hard way. ~Pamela Dugdale

Let me start by narrating a real-life story
A year back
Mummy to Baby N: "Whom do you love the most?"
Baby N: Mummy
And Mummy was mighty pleased :)

Today
Mummy to Baby N: "Whom do you love the most?"
Baby N : Baby T
And Mummy is speechless (And of course, super proud and super happy :)

The thing about sibling love is that makes it a TREASURE and a PLEASURE - If you've ever had a sibling you'd agree...

A sibling is that special present that your parents gifted you
To experience the many joys, pleasures and treasures
Of what life has to offer
Within the 4-walls of your house

As children
A sibling is your home-work buddy
A sibling is your playground companion
A sibling is your entertainment partner
A sibling is your best ally to your parents
A sibling is your partner in many a crime
A sibling is your mate at the study table, dining table and exam table
A sibling is your advocate, supporter, savior and strength on many a gloomy night
A sibling is also your worst critic, your foe, your worst nightmare :(
A sibling is the one who makes you understand what a love - hate relationship truly is
A sibling is the one who first introduces you to the concept 'For better or for worse'

As adults
A sibling is your friend, philosopher and guide
A sibling is your 4 AM friend
A sibling is your buddy through the good, bad and ugly
A sibling helps you weather many a storm
A sibling brings a smile to your face when all else goes wrong
A sibling makes your world go blue, green, yellow, white and pink
A sibling teaches you all about love and hate
A sibling takes care of you when all else desert you
A sibling is that ear when mummy daddy don't need to hear 
A sibling is that one person who'll always lend a shoulder, greet you with a smile, and shower you with a warm hug that make it all so worth-while
A sibling is a BLESSING indeed
And if you have a sibling, you are LUCKY indeed
 
About a year ago, I wrote a post here on my blog titled "The difference a sibling can make in your life". The key points I mentioned was that having a sibling teaches you so many things about life..
* Siblings teach you to SHARE
* Siblings help you deal with CHANGE
* Siblings will LOVE you no matter what you say or do
* Siblings can be that SAFETY NET you fall back on in times of need
* Siblings teach you to the importance of TRUST
* Siblings teach you how to build and nurture RELATIONSHIPS
* Siblings make you understand what TEAM-WORK is about

It's been a year, and I agree with all the above.. with a few more additions
* Siblings help you discover many new sides of YOURSELF
* Siblings help you understand what it means to FULLY ACCEPT SOMEONE
* Siblings truly help you appreciate the many hues of LOVE

In today's day and age, way too many couples have made personal choices in the marriage / parenting department. So I have friends who've said "No.. Thank You. I don't want to get married" to "No Thank You! We're happy as a twosome" to those who've said "Thank You. We are happy with one. And that's the most we can handle". And then there are those parents who're willing to go the extra mile and say "A family is incomplete without two kids". The latest trend that I'm seeing in many families is that parents are going even further with 3, 4, 5 and even 6 kids! (In some cases, Number 3 was an accident, or twins or it was due to second marriages where both partners came in with their children from the first marriage and also (possibly) had their own children or the mother desperately wanted a bunch of kids to raise and so they ended with with a large family). When I asked one such parent who has 3 kids how she manages, she said "Oh! Once you have 2, its a lot easier with the next few.. Firstly, you've been there and done that as a parent. So no sweat!. Secondly, they take care of each other, so its not as tough".. Hmm.. I don't know what to say to that! But it looks like life is coming a full circle from the way it was about 50 years ago! A wise old uncle in my family is famous for stating that "Any family is complete with 4 kids - 2 boys and 2 girls, as you learn and experience just about all kinds of relationships in the family.. like Brother - Brother, Sister - Sister, and Brother - Sister".. Wisdom indeed, but may not be relevant for today's day and age?

The other evening when I was at a park with my daughter, it warmed my heart to see many sibling-duos. All of them came just as the "duos" with no Mummy Daddy on toes, while the single kids came with Mummy / Daddy / Granny or Nanny.
As I observed the behaviors of the siblings at play, I was surprised and touched at the love and affection among the sibling. Just how "protective" the elder boys / girls were about their little brothers / sisters made my heart melt. They'd guard them, lose for them, protect them, push for their turn to play, pick a fight (if required), lift them up when they fell, hugged them when they needed a hug, kissed them when they needed a kiss, gave them water to drink and something to eat, wiped many a tear, showed them the sky, aeroplanes, moon, sun and stars....
I was deeply touched...
And went down on memory lane
To my own childhood
After all, the lessons your sibling will teach you
You will carry through life..
And no one can take that away from you

This post is dedicated to my sister - Thank You for everything

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Monday, October 28, 2013

Oh Bigg Boss! Oh Bigg Boss!

Oh Big Boss! Oh Big Boss
What is it about you...?
What is it about you that I know not?
What is it about you that I comprehend not?


Oh Big Boss! Oh Big Boss
You've landed right at the top
Beating the news, cricket, serials, movies, and even Arnab Goswami!
So, you've got talent!

Oh Big Boss! Oh Big Boss
You've changed my dinner time, my family time, my bed time
And that affects my wake-up time
Which influences the rest of my day and my mood
For worse than for better

Oh Big Boss! Oh Big Boss
Ever since you came into my life
You've turned it upside down
Every time you're on
The spouse does not look or talk to me
The children ignore me
The friends don't answer my calls, chat requests, messages
The colleagues don't attend conference calls, respond to mails
Even the parents make themselves unavailable to their kids!
And, FaceBook and Twitter are also chanting thy name 
Time and people seem to just stand still when you're around
 
Oh Big Boss! Oh Big Boss
What are you?
A bunch of boys / girls / men and women
Living under the same roof
Waking up, Eating, Sleeping, Chatting,
Singing, Dancing and really killing time
Doing some mundane and interesting tasks
Nothing really meaningful or constructive
And along the way,
There are cat fights, dog fights and fist fights
There are laughs, tears (pseudo and real) and everything else in-between
There are groups, politics and everything else in-between
There are friends, enemies and all those in-between
There is this and that, and everything in-between

Oh Big Boss! Oh Big Boss
What's the big deal about you?
Is it the concept that makes it work?
Is it the spice you add that make it juicy?
Is it the beautiful girls that make it tick?
Is it the real / make-believe romances that appeal?
Is it the drama and action that draws one and all?
Is it the public display of emotions that make it a treat?
Is it the honest and open display of human existence that make it addictive?
Is it the portrayal of a cross-section of our own lives which make it interesting?
Is it the many hues of our own reflections that you show us which make all the difference?
What is it about you...?
What is it about you that I know not?
What is it about you that I comprehend not?


Oh Big Boss! Oh Big Boss
tell me, please tell me
What is it about you???
That make you so popular and in demand

Dear Bigg Boss: I don't really dislike you. But I "DISLIKE" the way you've changed my life! 


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Sunday, October 27, 2013

Boys, Girls, Multi-Tasking and More

Ever since I've become a mother, my circle of friends has increased phenomenally. I have many a mommy friends now, you see. There's that "SOMETHING" about becoming a MOTHER which makes you instantly and wonderfully bond with other mothers - Age no bar, culture no bar, social standing no bar, ethnicity no bar.... No bars really (literally and figuratively!)! You will always find a zillion topics to speak about !

During many recent interactions with very many mummy friends, many of my mummy friends  vouched for the fact that girls are born with the multi-tasking gene intact (or talent if you'd call it that). Let me explain with an example.. Even a 10 day old baby girl will demonstrate this. How? She can drink milk and pee / do potty at the same time. (And in case you're not a parent, babies at that age really do the following - Sleep, Drink milk, 3P's = Pee, Poop, or Puke and Cry!). I can vouch for this from personal experience.

However, for boys - this gene somewhere got mutated / lost / modified (or the talent does not exist!). So most boys will either drink milk and if they want to pee / poop in between they will stop drinking, pee / poop and then continue drinking milk.. Again, ask any mother you know, or your own mother - if you don't believe me!

As boys and girls grow, this difference starts becoming more apparent. And by the time they are adults, you can see a noticeable difference. For e.g.: A girl / lady will be talking on the phone, watching TV, working on her official presentation and Tweeting / FaceBooking (Yes! Those words exist) at the same time. Most boys I find will possibly (and probably) only be watching TV (for the most part) at one time. Or they will be working on the official presentation. Again I know that there will be exceptions to the above. But I am speaking based on my personal observations, and for a vast majority of individuals

So here's the thing | In my view, girls are probably (and definitely) better at multi-tasking than boys. Look around you.. And there are so many real-life examples to see. Your mother? Your grandmother? Your aunts? .. The list is endless..Probably, this is nature's way of enabling girls as they grow up to be women, and most importantly to better equip them to fulfill their role as mothers (if and when that happens). Trust me, no MOTHER can really survive without multi-tasking.

From personal experience, I know that multi-tasking is good and great for many things in life, but along the way I've learned a few lessons as well.. And I'm sharing them in this post..

* For the things that really matter to you, do ONE THING AT A TIME. It gets done fast and really well and will make all the difference in the quality of output, and personal satisfaction you'd get!

* While multi-tasking is great and many times a necessity, I have found that multi-tasking sometimes takes as much time (or many times even more time) than doing one task at a time serially. So before you get into the multi-tasking mode, ask yourself if it really is required?

* As a girl / woman, recognize that you have a "+1" (or an advantage) in comparison to boys / men with respect to multi-tasking. Be aware of it, recognize it as your strength and maximize its benefit in your life :)

That concluded my post on Boys, Girls, Multi-Tasking and More. Would love to hear your views. Leave a comment to let me know


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Saturday, October 26, 2013

A Round-Up of my 9 BEST POSTS so far!

I've been blogging for more than 3 years now, and have written more than 1000 posts so far. As I take a step back and ask myself what are the best posts I have inscribed this far, a few top the list.

In this post, I am sharing the TOP NINE in random order (This is entirely my personal view).. Hope you enjoy reading as much as I enjoyed writing..

Lessons of Life No School really taught me

The A to Z of Life is All That Matters

12 Most Life Molding Basics you should Invest in

This Thingie called Marriage

What it means to be a mother?

Words Words Words.. What words can do?
 
What is your personal legacy?

The 3 Most Difficult Life Lessons to Teach your children

12 Most Significant Choices you make in life?



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Mummy Mummy, are you fasting for me?

So, its time for another fasting! This time mummy is supposed to fast for the long life of her "SONS". For those who don't know, this festival is called Ahoi Ashtami. To learn more, click here

At the outset let me highlight that I really have nothing against the practice of fasting. Occasional and periodic fasting definitely does more good to one's overall health and well-being, and I speak from experience here! It is the 'social significance' which leaves me with many a pondering!

First of all, for a baby to be born - any woman / mother endures the 9 months of pregnancy and the arduous labor / a surgery. No two pregnancies / deliveries are really alike,  but suffice to say that a woman "endures" a lot during this period - physically, emotionally, mentally, financially and not to mention even socially (especially in a place like India!). In fact once she becomes her mother, life is never really the same for any woman.. till the last breath! So my first point (assuming for a minute that mummy's fasting can indeed play a key role in how long the children live!) is this - "Why should a mother fast only for the "SONS"? Why not the "DAUGHTER"? If indeed the sole objective of the fasting is a long and good life, would any mother not wish that for all her children - be it boys / girls?

Next, is it really every mothers desire that her children should live long? I can't generalize, but suffice to say that as a mother I'd want my children to be healthy, happy and live active meaningful and fulfilling lives. I don't really know if the quantity matters as much beyond a point. Better to "truly live" for 50 years than to "simply exist" for 80 years - right?

Thirdly, if indeed "fasting" is one of the ways to ensure that your "SONS" do live a long life.. Why does the Daddy not fast? After all, does the Daddy not want the son to live long? The son is after all the successor of the family name, right? And the family name is indeed the fathers name, right?. So why is it always the woman / the mother who should fast? Why should she endure always?

Fourthly, what kind of message does this send to a "girl child" if she is born in the home where she has one / many brothers. That on this special day, her mother is fasting for the well-being of her brothers? As a young girl at an impressionable age, what "seeds" are being planted in her young impressionable mind? That her brothers life is more important significant and valued. And what about her life? Imagine what thoughts and emotions the girl would have to endure.. and what impact and influence it has on her own self-worth, self-confidence, perspectives and views of the world.

And lastly, if indeed a long life and well-being is achieved by "the practice of fasting by a woman" (Karva Chauth in which the wife fasts for the "husband", and Ahoi Ashtami in which the mother fast for the "sons"), then why does no one fast for the wife or the mother at some point in her lifetime? Don't they value her presence? Don't they want her to be healthy and well? Don't they need her to be the best possible "herself" to do the best possible for them? I don't really know! Do you?

As I conclude, I do honestly believe in the power of prayer - More so if it is a mother's prayer. So if a mother wishes well for her children, and believes that fasting is one path-way to her children's well-being, then so be it! Just one request, if you do fast - please do so for the well-being of both your SON and your DAUGHTER.. Thank You


Friday, October 25, 2013

Questions for which I don't really have answers.. Can you answer?

I've come to accept the fact that I will probably and possibly not have complete and satisfactory answers to very questions in my life.  True for you too?. So what are those QUESTIONS which keep me awake on many a dark night or keep me busy on Dr. Google through the day?

My list is below. For ease of reading / writing, I have grouped them into logical categories.

LIFE

* The science, art and mystery of human creation. Just how does everything work so perfectly for a new life to be born (Just thinking about it can be mind-boggling!)?

* How the human body works in perfect harmony every single day for life to exist and persist?

* For the vast majority, is talent in-born or developed / enhanced by perseverance and practice?

* What are the key ingredients for success (as per the worldly definition)? Why are some people so successful and why are some people not?

* Why is it that most of us have so much inertia to convert thought to action?

* Why do we do what we do? - Most of the times?

* Why do most of us judge most of the times; even if we are not qualified / competent to judge?

* Do logic / emotions really make the world go round?

* What really drives decision making for most of us? How do we truly make decisions?

* Why do we live every single day running away from happiness, when what we all really want is to be happy?

* Why do we discriminate?

* Why are some of us happy despite everything; and why many of us are unhappy in spite of everything?

* What is death? Can anyone really understand it in life? What really happens when you die?

* Is there an end to the world?

* Is there really something called destiny? Or is it all free-will?

EDUCATION / SCHOOLING

* Why do schools / educational institutes teach you so much / so many things that you will NEVER really remember, NEVER really use or NEVER really understand?

* When everything in the world changes so frequently, why does the education system / policies / teaching styles / pedagogy and syllabus not change as quickly? What is it about the education industry that makes it almost always lag?

* Why do the most brilliant academic performers end up leading very average , normal and inconsequential lives in which they don't really do anything significant / note-worthy in line with their intelligence and knowledge?

* Why do the most average school performers flower and blossom into global stars in which they make an indelible mark in the world?

LOVE and RELATIONSHIPS

* Is there something called "True Love"? Does it really last forever?

* Are all relationships based on mutual / reciprocal necessities / needs and convenience? or No?

* Is there ever a balance in relationships? Or are they always imbalanced?

* What really influences our choices of partners / lovers? Why the most brilliant boy / girl usually falls in love with the most *unexpected* girl / boy?

* Who really is one's soul mate? And what is a soul-mate? Do they really exist?

* Can a basic human emotion die in an individual? 

* Can friendships really change your life?

* Can that one moment really transform you?

PARENTING

* How  women (who is largely consider the 'weaker sex') find the physical / mental and emotional strength to endure child-birth?

* How mothers can be *UNCONDITIONALLY SELFLESS* and *UNIMAGINABLY SELFISH* for their children? It makes you wonder if it is the same person at all?

* Why do children take on the father's surname, and not the mothers name; when really how most children turn out is HUGELY DEPENDENT on their MOTHER?

* What goes on in the mind and heart of a new born baby? What does he / she think? What does he / she feel?

* "For Better or For Worse" - How do parents get the strength to endure every thing that a child puts you through?

If you have / know the answers to any of these, leave a comment / link. Thank You!


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Thursday, October 24, 2013

That FaceBook "LIKE"

I Like, I Like, I Like
I Like X's photo
I Like Y's status
I Like Z's comment
I Like this page and that
I Like this ad and that
I Like this, that and more
I Like, I Like, I Like

I Like, I Like, I Like
I Like not because "I really Like"
I Like because its cool to Like
I Like because it makes me feel alive
I Like because I have nothing else to do
I Like because it makes my presence felt
I Like because I really like it
I Like because I want to please
I Like because I am present
I Like because..... everyone Likes

I wonder why people "Like" everything that "everyone" uploads on FaceBook.. Its almost like as if there's a bumper prize, gold medal or 'Tiara crown' for the user with the maximum number of FaceBook Likes.. (Tell me, was there any public announcement to this effect?!!!). From what I've read, The FaceBook Like button was conceptualized and designed to enable a user to give feedback on a status, picture or comment at the click of a button, without really saying anything. If you want to know more, click here and here

But I think its the most "USED" and "ABUSED" feature on FaceBook..

I am left speechless when someone "Likes" any of the following
* A death update : What would you like about someone's death?
* News of a natural tragedy like flood, earthquake : What is there to like about a tragedy?
* Update on the spread of a disease : What is there to like if someone is unwell?
* News of a medical emergency : What is there to like if someone is in an emergency?
* Status on someone going through a bad time (I mean real bad - like unemployment, discovery of a chronic ailment, a divorce, a financial loss, law suit, etc.) yes! people share these things on FaceBook and I've read it : What is there to like if someone is having it hard in life?

I mean..
Can anyone truly "Like" any of the above (Going purely by the English definition of Like)?

Have we become so robotic in our FaceBook actions that we don't pause to think before we act?

Have we become so insensitive to the emotions and tragedies of others that we actually like it?

Don't we know and understand words like "empathy" or "sympathy"?

Sadly, I have more questions than answers..

What's your view? Why do you use the FaceBook "Like" button? Leave a comment to let me know


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Wednesday, October 23, 2013

What is your Social Media Legacy?

A few days back, I published a post titled “What is your Personal Legacy?”.But after the post was published, I felt something was incomplete in my post. I couldn’t really put a finger on what, but I knew that I had missed something. During one such pensive and quiet moment, I got it!

Looking around me, I realized that a vast majority of us spend significant amount of our daily time online – especially on Social Media platforms [Twitter, Facebook, Blogs, Pinterest, etc]. So would it not be relevant to plan to leave a legacy of your Social Media presence? Or in other words – Your very own Social Media Legacy?

After all, bottom line “Social Media” is really about 3 things…
  1. Knowledge / Collective Knowledge / Wisdom / Collective Wisdom – of an individual / community / world at large
  2. Thoughts / Ideas, which stem from confusion, consciousness, creativity, co-relation, collaboration, comprehension – of an individual / community / world at large
  3. Interactions / Communities / Relationships and Networks – between individuals / communities / world at large
10 or possibly 50 years from now, one’s “Social Media Legacy” will be an integral (even legally perhaps) and important part of one’s personal legacy.

So if you’re wondering what exactly your Social Media Legacy could comprise of. Here are a few examples:
  • A Blog – Which is really a canvas for words. Words which stem from dreams, thoughts, observations, analysis, learning’s, conversations, view-points, outlook, views, emotions, perspectives, achievements, mistakes, failures, lessons learnt, comprehensions, experiences and conclusions. And that sums up the lives of most of us, doesn’t it? Would it not be worthwhile to share such a memoir as a part of your personal legacy?
  • A Twitter profile – Which is really be a collection of thoughts, observations, viewpoints, perspectives, interesting data / facts / figures / news / quotes / articles / compilations / readings. Would it not be worthwhile to share such a collection as a part of your personal legacy?
  • A Pinterest Board – Which is really a compilation of world-class / interesting / favorite pictures or photos on a specific topic(s) of personal interest. Would it not be worthwhile to share such a compilation as a part of your personal legacy?
Whom you leave your Social Media Legacy for is a personal choice. And how much they will value it, only time will tell.

But here’s what’s important – If you are serious about leaving behind a Social Media Legacy, plan for it today; and work objectively on it in the years to come. After all, you are spending so much time on a daily basis on Social Media channels, so is it not worthwhile to channelize your efforts in a structured way?

I hope that, sometime in the future (say 10, 20 or 50 years from now) ~ you would have built a rich Social Media estate ~ one, which will be of value to the next generation!

On that note, Good Luck in creating your Social Media Legacy!

Do you think your Social Media Legacy will be an integral part of your personal legacy sometime in the future? Leave a comment to let me know…


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Tuesday, October 22, 2013

So, what is "DEATH"?

So what is DEATH? I wonder many a time
Is it an end or Is it a new beginning?
Is it the conversion of matter to energy?
Is it the culmination of breath.. or life?
Is it time when your work / role here is done and up? 
Is it the time when you can bear it here no more?
I don't really know for sure..

I've not really Googled about what others said about DEATH... until today. Sharing what made an impression on me..

It is a curious thing, the death of a loved one. We all know that our time in this world is limited, and that eventually all of us will end up underneath some sheet, never to wake up. And yet it is always a surprise when it happens to someone we know. It is like walking up the stairs to your bedroom in the dark, and thinking there is one more stair than there is. Your foot falls down, through the air, and there is a sickly moment of dark surprise as you try and readjust the way you thought of things.”
BY Lemony Snicket, Horseradish: Bitter Truths You Can't Avoid

"I do not fear death. I had been dead for billions and billions of years before I was born, and had not suffered the slightest inconvenience from it.”
BY Mark Twain

"Our life dreams the Utopia. Our death achieves the Ideal."
BY Victor Hugo

"Death, in itself, is nothing; but we fear,
To be we know not what, we know not where.
"
BY John Dryden

"After your death you will be what you were before your birth."
BY Arthur Schopenhauer

"If you would behold the spirit of death, open your heart wide unto the body of life. For life and death are one, even as the river and sea are one."
BY Kahlil Gibran

"Death is a natural part of life. Rejoice for those around you who transform into the Force."
BY Yoda, Star Wars Episode III: Revenge of the Sith

"It seems a strange and repugnant conclusion that with the cessation of consciousness at death, there ceases to be any knowledge of having existed. With his last breath it becomes to each the same thing as though he had never lived. And then the consciousness itself -- what is it during the time that it continues? And what becomes of it when it ends? We can only infer that it is a specialized and individualized form of that Infinite and Eternal Energy which transcends both our knowledge and our imagination; and that at death its elements lapse into the Infinite and Eternal Energy whence they were derived."
BY Herbert Spencer

"With death comes honesty."
BY Salman Rushdie

"Death aims only once, but never misses."
BY Edward Counsel, Maxims

"Our dead are never dead to us until we have forgotten them."
BY George Eliot

"Death ends a life, not a relationship.
BY Mitch Albom, Tuesdays With Morrie

"For death is but a passing phase of Life;
A change of dress, a disrobing;
A birth into the unborn again;
A commencing where we ended;
A starting where we stopped to rest;
A crossroad of Eternity;
A giving up of something, to possess all things.
The end of the unreal, the beginning of the real.
"
BY Edwin Leibfreed, "The Song of the Soul"

So, what does death mean to you? Do you understand it? Leave a comment to let me know

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Monday, October 21, 2013

What is your personal legacy?


Everyone leaves behind a personal legacy.  Just that some don’t know and some know – The What?, The How? and The Why?” BY Nischala Murthy Kaushik

There are some life events which compel you to think deeply about your “PERSONAL LEGACY” – For most of us, these events center around birth of your children or grandchildren, children touching specific milestones (say turn 18, getting married, etc.), loss of your parents, spouse or loved ones. For some of us, it may be our age (say 40, 50 or 60), or retirement from active work, or a major illness, or some other emotional trigger

No matter what the trigger is at some point in life, most of us tend to think about the answer to the question “What is my PERSONAL LEGACY?”

The first response for many people is around financial legacy and assets. Very valid and true. After all, money does make the world go round. However, we are all endowed with several other assets in life. And many times don't even acknowledge them as assets or something we want to hand down to future generations.

So what all can be an integral part of your legacy? Sharing my view below:

(1)  WISDOM OF LIFE 

      Anyone who has truly lived / experienced life has learned several Lessons of Life  ; which I refer to as the Wisdom of Life.

For e.g.:  My father taught me several lessons of life. But I think the most important one’s which I will always remember, and would want to pass down to the next generation are (1) The importance of being a “lifelong learner” (2) The importance of having only 3 TOP Priorities in your priority list at a specific point in time. Too many, and you really won’t be able to do justice to any! (3) Openness to deal with life changes, irrespective of your age and situation (4) The importance of being clear on your value system; and living by it – no matter what. This will be the strength of your character.

Again, no school or classroom or book really re-enforced these learning’s, but life has many times.

So take a step back and ask yourself about the “Wisdom of Life” in your lens. And figure a way to share it with those who matter, for whom it will make a DIFFERENCE!

(2) GOOD HABITS

Over the years, I have come to believe that your life is really a collection of Habits – Daily Habits, Weekly Habits, Monthly Habits, Yearly Habits – which all add to how your life eventually turns out. And the good news is that habits can be developed and nurtured at any age and stage in life.

As individuals, the habits you demonstrate as a part of your personal and professional life determine how your life turns out, and this will be part of your personal legacy. Something which can potentially inspire others, something which others can learn from you or something which others will always remember you for.

For e.g.: No matter when she sleeps, no matter rain sun wind or rainbows, no matter how she is feeling, my mother will wake up every day of the year at 5 AM. Not only does it give her some time to do things which are important to her like reading, yoga, exercise or prayer – But it also gives her a head-start to plan her day and get things organized around the house. Again “waking up early or even at a fixed time every single day of the year” can sometimes be the one and only good habit that transforms your life.

So think about it? Do you have enough good HABITS that you are personally proud of? If not, may be you need to start building them from today – They will add to your personal legacy

(3) SELF-TAUGHT SKILLS

Broadly, there are two types of skills I have seen in people – Skills you are born with and self-taught skills. There’s very little you can do about the skills you’re born with. You accept them, are grateful for them, hone them for life and try to make the best out of them.

Self-taught skills are built by individuals because of their interest, passion, years of repeated practice and / or necessity. And these self-taught skills many times enable individuals to reach the pinnacles of success or achieve their life goals. The fact is that most of us have learnt several skills in the journey of life. But we fail to recognize these as our assets and as something worth leaving as a part of our personal legacy. Agreed that some of these skills become obsolete with time and the era, but there are so many life skills which will never die.

For e.g.: My mother-in-law is an excellent cook. She loves cooking, experimenting and innovating – especially when it comes to Indian cuisine.  No matter how few / many ingredients you give her, how many people are waiting at the table, and how much time she has - She always cooks a fantastic meal and presents it in the most exquisite manner – It tastes great, smells fantastic and is a feast to your eyes. It’s obviously a passion for cooking, years of practice, experimentation & experience and a personal encyclopedia of tips, tricks, best practices and learning from masters along the way which has helped her achieve mastery over her culinary skills.

So what are those life skills that you have picked up along the journey of life? Writing / Cooking / Music / Dance / Technology / Communication, etc. Whatever it is, identify it and find a way to share it as a part of your personal legacy

(4) KNOWLEDGE

We live in the “Knowledge Era” – A time when knowledge is power, knowledge translates (directly / indirectly) to money, knowledge is a source of “competitive advantage”, knowledge is considered “priceless” and knowledge is a great personal asset.

Along the journey of life, everyone one of us amasses an incredible amount of knowledge – through formal learning, through self-study, through experience, through observations, through introspection, through practice, through interactions, through realization…

And yet, many of us fail to acknowledge, recognize and appreciate how much we actually know. In most cases, what makes each of our knowledge “truly unique” is the combination of theory and practical experience which we individually go through – which in most cases is “exclusive” and “implicit” to us. If you can find a way to make the “unique knowledge” “explicit”, then that would definitely be part of your legacy.

For e.g.: A very close family friend has incredible practical knowledge on how to repair any kind of electronic equipment or cars – Something which he acquired over a span of 50 years of his life purely because of personal interest, self-study and experimentation. And the fact is no one apart from him really knows what he does, but he can fix just about any device with any kind of problem, and from any era! It is a truly unique knowledge, and I don’t know of too many people who have the depth and breadth of knowledge that he does.

Take some time to reflect on what KNOWLEDGE you possess – And try to figure out a way to store and pass on that knowledge to the next generations. That would be definitely worthwhile; and an important aspect of your personal legacy.

(5) CHILDREN

For those who have children, they are an integral part of your personal legacy. How they eventually turn out?, What they make of themselves? and the difference they make in the world can be directly / indirectly be linked to you, how your raised them and the role you played in their upbringing.

So for those of you who have children - Are you doing enough – your bit and BEST to nurture,  teach, groom and guide your children to truly discover themselves and live life to their BEST potential? That is part of your personal legacy

(6) PERSONAL CREATIONS

Within each of us lie a “Creator”, a “Consumer” and a “Critique”. And while most of us tend to be active “Consumers” and “Critics” for many things as a part of everyday life, we are also “creative souls” and do tend to create so many beautiful things in life like software, art, paintings, poetry, writings, books, cards, blogs, tweets, movies, music, documentaries, videos, podcasts, jewelry, etc. etc.
Not everything you create may be worth storing or sharing, but we all have some “special creations” which form an integral part of our personal legacy.

For e.g.: Almost 100 years back, my maternal grandfather had created a multi-purpose “cupboard” – One which was compact, “foldable” to fit in 2 feet ; and could be used as a book shelf, writing table, dining table, bed, reclining chair and a dozen other features. I have never seen such a unique and innovative cupboard design in my entire life (till date) – Undoubtedly, it was an integral part of his personal legacy, something which is of great pride when I even think about it.

So think about it - What all have you created so far – which is unique, personal and special to your talent and creativity? Add and share this as a part of your personal legacy.

(7) FAMILY TRADITIONS

Every family has “family traditions” which are sacred. Most of us tend to follow them – knowingly or unknowingly because they become habits which were developed from childhood. But we fail to recognize their origin, reason, emotion or genesis. If you probe a little deep, you will be surprised to hear of their legacy.

Are you aware of how your family traditions came into being? If not, ask your parents / grand-parents / elders in your family? And share their significance and importance with those who need to know. 100 years from now, it will make a difference if people know answers to the WHY’s?

(8) THE "TRUE SPIRIT" OF FESTIVALS

No matter where you live, what you do, how old you are, what culture you belong to, what religious affiliations you have…  Festivals have been / are / will continue to be a part of your life.

In 2012 as I did a detailed research on festivals, I was pleasantly surprised to learn that most festivals have multiple significance – One is definitely the religious significance. But beyond that, most festivals also have a social, geographical (especially with respect to the changing weather and seasons, and how the human body reacts to these changes), emotional and spiritual significance.

However somewhere along the way, the “TRUE SPIRIT” is never spoken or discussed, and celebrations revolve around the more physical / materialistic / commercial aspects – which include food, shopping and simply enjoying a day off.

So take time and make the effort to understand the “TRUE SPIRIT” of festivals. And if you already know it, then share it with those around you – family, friends, etc. It is important to spread this message!

(9) SPECIAL RECIPES
 
From time immemorial, food and humans have a “deep bond”. There is something “exquisite” about traditional recipes, family recipes, special recipes, self-discovered / self-created recipes; something which have a special taste, flavor, smell, emotion, reason, meaning and experience.  And the fact is that no cook book or Master Chef (No matter how many  Michelin Stars he / she has) can tell you the magic ingredients, portions, history or “emotions” that go in to making those recipes.

If you probe a little deeper by asking a few questions to the elders in your family / owners of a recipe, you will realize that every special recipe has a story, history and reason for its existence.

And simply because of their uniqueness, these special recipes are worth knowing, worth cooking and worth passing down to the next generation.

If you don’t know any of these “recipes”, make an attempt to learn them. And if you already know them, then share it with those around you– especially family 

(10) PERSONAL / FAMILY COLLECTIONS
 
Many individuals / families have personal collections – Which are an integral part of one’s personal legacy. This could be
(i)  Personal hobbies (For e.g: Collections of stamps, coins, books, photographs and some of the more interesting one’s I know are of collections of erasers, paintings, sculptures, antiques, exquisite jewelry, designer watches, pens, wine glasses, coffee mugs, etc.),
(ii)  Personal / Family achievements (For e.g.: Recognitions, Awards, Citations, etc.)
(iii)  Personal / Family discoveries (For e.g.: In the kitchen, in dealing with the opposite sex  [And that could be the topic of another post :)], etc.)
(iv)  Personal / Family assortments which were handed down through generations (For e.g.: Jewelry, clothes [especially wedding clothes], Music, Videos, Documentaries, Photographs, Art-work, Unique designs, etc.)

Many such similar personal / family collections usually take time, effort and personal interest to build.

So if you have already built such a collection, do spend some time in thinking about how you would want this to be part of your personal legacy? And if someone entrusts you with their legacy, then do justice to maintaining it.

(11) IDEAS

Every reality of the world started sometime somewhere as an “idea”.  Some ideas got the required fodder, environment, ecosystem, monetary backing and support to thrive and flourish. And some lay dormant for a while. Some die.

The reality is that we all have so many ideas which flash through our mind every single day - And yet we fail to pay attention, we fail acknowledge them, and we fail to log them. Many of us believe that not every idea is probably worth capturing, but just “What-If” there’s one that can change the world?

For e.g.: A very successful entrepreneur who runs an illustrious family-owned enterprise told me that one part of his legacy is his “treasure of ideas” – An idea log which he jots down religiously with great fervor. And he tells me with great pride that part of the reason for his entrepreneurial success is that he acts on these ideas when the time is right. What an idea!

So make the effort to document your own Idea Journal or Idea Log or Idea Repository. Who knows? It may be the next “game changer” of the world!

(12) PERSONAL WEALTH
 
      But of course! Your financial legacy is a very important part of your legacy. What assets / liabilities you leave behind is a critical part of your legacy, and directly affects the quality of life of your family – today and even long after you’re gone. It takes a lifetime of toil to earn money, but it takes focused planning, investment discipline and periodic reviews to compound that money!

So think about it - What is your current personal wealth? Do you need to be more frugal in spending, wiser in investing and regular in reviewing your personal finances? If yes, you can start today!

(13) YOUR "KARMA"

Your life is a continuum of thoughts, words and deeds: or you’re “KARMA”. And whether you realize it or not, an integral part of your legacy is the cumulative sum of all the “karma” of your life. And the point is this - You will be remembered equally for the “good karma” and “bad karma”, especially all that you said / did which changed the course of life for someone else. 

So think about it – If you had to balance between the entire positive and negative karma in your life so far, how would the reading look? Do you need to do something today to change how it would look in the future?

(14) THE DIFFERENCE YOU MADE IN THE LIVES OF OTHERS 

Long after you’re gone, others will remember you not for the money you made or your many successes / victories or your impressive career resume or how you looked or how well you lived. But they will always remember you for the difference you made in their lives, especially in those vulnerable / difficult moments!

So think about it – Are you making (consciously / unconsciously) at least a small difference in the life of someone? And if someone made a difference in your life, have you acknowledged / appreciated what they did?  If not, spare a moment to say what it means to you. Who knows? You may never get another chance!

This post is dedicated to my FATHER - Dr.P.S.B.Murthy. Thank You….. for everything.

Did you like this post? Did it compel you to think? Did you compel you to introspect?
What do you think can go into building one’s personal legacy? Leave a comment to me know. Look forward to hear your views…



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Sunday, October 20, 2013

My Mummy is the BEST COOK in the world

For the first 3 years, Mummy fed her baby milk and all the good healthy baby food. The baby gulped it down.. gulp gulp gulp.. No chocolates, no pizzas, no french fries, no noodles, no junk food.. Just the healthy balanced Indian meal..
Happy well fed baby = Happy content Mummy

Then the baby started getting a bite of the "till then hidden pleasures and treasures of the very many types of foods" - chocolates, french fries, pizzas, noodles, pastries, ice-creams, et al
And refused the humble healthy Indian meal, So baby says a big NO NO to roti, dal and vegetables!

Now, what is poor hassled mummy to do?
Morning its Googling, Afternoon - its round table discussions with veteran mommies, Evening its advice time from family, Night visits to Mummy blogs, and lots of mid-night pondering

Mummy's only aim : Baby should eat at least 1 healthy "Indian" meal in a day which includes a balance of all food groups (proteins, carbohydrates, vitamins, minerals and fat). The combination of roti topped with ghee, dal, vegetables and curd was just not working. Day after day. Baby dismissed all these foods as boring, yucky and inedible. Sigh!
Unhappy unfed baby = Mummy's nightmare
 
After all the consultants, advices and pondering.. Here's what Mummy did.. She started mixing the roti dough with boiled vegetables (fully mashed / blended) / cooked dal (again fully mashed / blended) / milk or a combination of some of these. And made a yummy paratha topped with some butter / ghee / cheese. Mummy named this the "Indian pizza", and it also passed Mummy's checklist of having a balance of all food groups (proteins, carbohydrates, vitamins, minerals and fat). Along with a cup of fruit yoghurt (aka curd), baby gulped down this yummy new  delicacy. Day after day.
‘Ignorance indeed is bliss, Mummy thought to herself.’ after baby had eaten this healthy meal for almost a month, and said "Hmmm Mummy... so yummy. My mummy is the BEST COOK in the world"
Happy well fed baby = Happy content Mummy

Morals of the story :
(1) You'll never ever really know what all goes into mummy's cooking!
(2) Eat healthy, Stay fit!
(3) Ignorance is bliss

PS: The above mentioned roti / chappati / paratha actually tastes yum. Try it!

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Why does she endure?

Why does she endure..?
The discrimination
The indifference
The humiliation
The harassment
The torture
The abuse
The pain
The bias
The guilt
The blame
The shame
The stigma
The dogmas
The taunts
The criticism
The judgment
The constraints
The lack of choices
The unfairness of it all

Why-o-Why?
Why does she endure it all?
From her parents
From her family
From her friends
From her teachers
From her colleagues
From her managers
From her organization
From her neighbors
From those around.
From the world
From the society

Why does she endure?
Is it because its her choice?
Is it because she has no choice?

Is it because she knows no other way?
Is it because there is no other way?

Is it because she is strong?
Is it because she is weak?

Is it because she loves him?
Is it because she loves them?
Is it because she loves herself?

Is it because she fears the unknown?
Is it because she is too comfortable with the known?

Is it because of the dependence?
Is it because of the inter-dependence?
Is it because she knows not independence?

Is it because of her expectations?
Is it because of their expectations?


Why-o-Why?
Why does she endure?
When she did not ask 
To be born a GIRL..


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I knew it was my last day there


Last day indeed!
No more bells
No more assembly
No more sports practice
No more (pseudo) loo breaks
No more lunch breaks
No more cockroach dissection :)
No more school politics
No more innocent mischief in class
No more studying all those subjects
No more friends who’ll live and die for you
No sports days, annual days and Christmas plays
No more of the same faces everyday
It was my last day in school
And come what may, I’ll never ever get those school days back!
Ah! Those wonderful school days indeed

Written for the prompt "I knew it was my last day there"

100 Words on Saturday - Write Tribe